Comments for Nancy Alvarez Writes http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com Little Nancy: The Journey Home Tue, 15 Nov 2011 03:29:35 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 Comment on Rashamon: What We Remember by amanda lawn http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/rashamon-what-we-remember/#comment-156 amanda lawn Tue, 15 Nov 2011 03:29:35 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=640#comment-156 after reading your post I think of: forgiveness, compassion, understanding that i am not the center of attention, and the giving of freedom to others and to myself. there are some people i fear reaching out to again, not because i think i won't be accepted, but because i can't give myself that freedom to be anything but the best friend ever. after reading your post I think of: forgiveness, compassion, understanding that i am not the center of attention, and the giving of freedom to others and to myself. there are some people i fear reaching out to again, not because i think i won’t be accepted, but because i can’t give myself that freedom to be anything but the best friend ever.

]]> Comment on Keep Your Mouth Shut: It’s Safer by Nancy http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/keep-your-mouth-shut-its-safer/#comment-110 Nancy Mon, 19 Sep 2011 19:06:23 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=600#comment-110 My Mom was pretty outspoken, but during the McCarthy era, she became much more reticent. And she urged me to keep quiet because I was so unhappy with losing friends. I don't think that was the right choice, though I'm not sure what was. That they moved, which was not easy for them financially, shows how concerned they were. I knew that back then and was extremely appreciative. My fiftieth hs reunion is this year, and I plan on going east to meet three women friends from those days. We will probably meet in NYC and skip the reunion, since none of us liked it much many years ago. I am in touch with all of them, and they with just me, so it should be fun to re-connect for everyone else. Interesting that with personal issues you've had a hard time too. Wonder if this is something we learn in society, from our mom's .... where? Glad you won't stifle yourself either. It just isn't worth it. My Mom was pretty outspoken, but during the McCarthy era, she became much more reticent. And she urged me to keep quiet because I was so unhappy with losing friends. I don’t think that was the right choice, though I’m not sure what was. That they moved, which was not easy for them financially, shows how concerned they were. I knew that back then and was extremely appreciative. My fiftieth hs reunion is this year, and I plan on going east to meet three women friends from those days. We will probably meet in NYC and skip the reunion, since none of us liked it much many years ago. I am in touch with all of them, and they with just me, so it should be fun to re-connect for everyone else. Interesting that with personal issues you’ve had a hard time too. Wonder if this is something we learn in society, from our mom’s …. where? Glad you won’t stifle yourself either. It just isn’t worth it.

]]> Comment on Keep Your Mouth Shut: It’s Safer by Nancy Noble Gardner http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/keep-your-mouth-shut-its-safer/#comment-109 Nancy Noble Gardner Mon, 19 Sep 2011 19:00:38 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=600#comment-109 Nance, I was touched to learn this about you. Our grandparents appeared to be very outspoken, and so was my mother. I was more fortunate than you in my school and friendship circles, but regarding personal differences, it has always been a struggle. Like you, I have gotten to the point of it not being an option to stifle myself! But it takes some ware and tear at times. And still, too much thinking/concern. So here’s to our breezy 80′s! Nance, I was touched to learn this about you. Our grandparents appeared to be very outspoken, and so was my mother. I was more fortunate than you in my school and friendship circles, but regarding personal differences, it has always been a struggle. Like you, I have gotten to the point of it not being an option to stifle myself! But it takes some ware and tear at times. And still, too much thinking/concern. So here’s to our breezy 80′s!

]]> Comment on Keep Your Mouth Shut: It’s Safer by Nancy Noble Gardner http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/keep-your-mouth-shut-its-safer/#comment-108 Nancy Noble Gardner Mon, 19 Sep 2011 18:58:38 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=600#comment-108 Nance, I was touched to learn this about you. Our grandparents appeared to be very outspoken, and so was my mother. I was more fortunate than you in my school and friendship circles, but regarding personal differences, it has always been a struggle. Like you, I have gotten to the point of it not being an option to stifle myself! But it takes some ware and tear at times. And still, too much thinking/concern. So here's to our breezy 80's! Nance, I was touched to learn this about you. Our grandparents appeared to be very outspoken, and so was my mother. I was more fortunate than you in my school and friendship circles, but regarding personal differences, it has always been a struggle. Like you, I have gotten to the point of it not being an option to stifle myself! But it takes some ware and tear at times. And still, too much thinking/concern. So here’s to our breezy 80′s!

]]> Comment on Failure: What Is That, Anyway? by Nancy http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/failure-what-is-that-anyway/#comment-98 Nancy Tue, 30 Aug 2011 02:14:30 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=585#comment-98 Marissa, Thanks for your heart-felt and honest comment. Forgiving ourselves is so damned hard. I would suggest Alanon. It really helps with these kinds of issues, if you work the program, get a sponsor, etc. There are meetings all over the country. I live in a very small town, and we have over three meetings a week here. You can always go on line, or google Al-anon. They list meetings town by town. And i you have AA near you, they would know about Al-anon meetings. I'm glad I give you hope. Keep commenting and I will write back. You could try the book; it might help you through in other ways too. You can order from Amazon. Or just keep reading the free blog and I'll reply. Marissa,

Thanks for your heart-felt and honest comment. Forgiving ourselves is so damned hard. I would suggest Alanon. It really helps with these kinds of issues, if you work the program, get a sponsor, etc. There are meetings all over the country. I live in a very small town, and we have over three meetings a week here. You can always go on line, or google Al-anon. They list meetings town by town. And i you have AA near you, they would know about Al-anon meetings.

I’m glad I give you hope. Keep commenting and I will write back. You could try the book; it might help you through in other ways too. You can order from Amazon. Or just keep reading the free blog and I’ll reply.

]]> Comment on Failure: What Is That, Anyway? by Marissa E. Graef-Faeth http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/failure-what-is-that-anyway/#comment-97 Marissa E. Graef-Faeth Tue, 30 Aug 2011 02:06:52 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=585#comment-97 You speak from my hearth & minde. Wish, I could join to get over my paste relationship with a junkie, sex addict criminal. He took everrything I had & saved a way from me. I left Him. Was homless & miserable for close 1 year. When I was over this, He showed up, 60 pound lost & told Me, that He missed Me. (Was only the Housekeeper for the dyrt) Today, I don't know, what happens to me, to fall for such loser & hang in to please Him. I live in a sdmall town & the police was never an option. Would move, but not help to do so. You give Me Hope! I Adore what You do. Keep going. Thanks & God Bless. Marissa E. You speak from my hearth & minde. Wish, I could join to get over my paste relationship with a junkie, sex addict criminal. He took everrything I had & saved a way from me. I left Him. Was homless & miserable for close 1 year. When I was over this, He showed up, 60 pound lost & told Me, that He missed Me. (Was only the Housekeeper for the dyrt) Today, I don’t know, what happens to me, to fall for such loser & hang in to please Him. I live in a sdmall town & the police was never an option. Would move, but not help to do so.
You give Me Hope! I Adore what You do. Keep going. Thanks & God Bless. Marissa E.

]]> Comment on Sports, Women, and Femininity! by Nancy http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/sports-women-and-femininity/#comment-83 Nancy Tue, 09 Aug 2011 16:22:03 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=565#comment-83 thanks for this. Keep commenting on those that interest you. The more dialogue woman to woman, the better. That's one of my goals. (That my daughters will learn quicker is a lovely pipe dream, and not how it works, I fear. But they are doing well, and are a delight, at least most of the time! :) ) thanks for this. Keep commenting on those that interest you. The more dialogue woman to woman, the better. That’s one of my goals. (That my daughters will learn quicker is a lovely pipe dream, and not how it works, I fear. But they are doing well, and are a delight, at least most of the time! :) )

]]> Comment on Sports, Women, and Femininity! by Local seo http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/sports-women-and-femininity/#comment-82 Local seo Tue, 09 Aug 2011 10:37:59 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=565#comment-82 Nice post. I was checking continuously this blog and I'm impressed! Extremely useful information specifically the last part :) I care for such info much. I was seeking this certain info for a long time. Thank you and good luck. Nice post. I was checking continuously this blog and I’m impressed! Extremely useful information specifically the last part :) I care for such info much. I was seeking this certain info for a long time. Thank you and good luck.

]]> Comment on Healing: When We Feel Helpless by Nancy Gardner http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/healing-when-we-feel-helpless/#comment-74 Nancy Gardner Wed, 03 Aug 2011 23:44:49 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=571#comment-74 Nothing scarier! Glad the little guy is doing better. Nothing scarier! Glad the little guy is doing better.

]]> Comment on Healing: When We Feel Helpless by Nancy http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/blog/healing-when-we-feel-helpless/#comment-73 Nancy Wed, 03 Aug 2011 16:23:45 +0000 http://www.nancyalvarezwrites.com/?p=571#comment-73 He was fine yesterday and seems fine today. So perhaps he swallowed something soft, that didn't show on Xray or in scope, and it's disintegrated. We'll see. He was fine yesterday and seems fine today. So perhaps he swallowed something soft, that didn’t show on Xray or in scope, and it’s disintegrated. We’ll see.

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